“Do you remember when this happened?” “What did you know about this growing up?”
These were the kind of questions I got from the boys during our Civil Rights Tour this summer—to Selma, Montgomery and Birmingham, Alabama and to Memphis, Tennessee. The kind of questions I had to answer with some version of ignorance—no, nothing, can’t remember, we didn’t talk about it.

The boys in front of the church in Birmingham, where in September 1963 4 girls were killed in a bombing by the Ku Klux Klan.
I’m embarrassed to admit this to them—and to you—but I knew very little about the details of the Civil Rights struggle, until these past few months studying those years with the boys. Yes, I knew the name Rosa Parks and that she wouldn’t give up her seat on some bus. Yes, I knew there was a famous I-Have-A-Dream Speech, and that Martin Luther King was assassinated in Memphis on April 4, 1986 (when I was 7 years old). And I absolutely knew that blacks were treated unfairly, often cruelly and inhumanely, through out much of our history since the Civil War (of course, they were treated in an unspeakable ways before the Civil War).
But even though most of the major events of the Civil Rights movement happened immediately before my birth or while I was a child, they seemed to me to be some sort of distant, foggy history. It’s as if it was someone else’s history–not my own.
This is probably why I became so overwhelmed with emotion when I stood at the exact corner in Montgomery, Alabama, where Rosa Parks was taken off the bus and arrested or when I walked across the famous Edmund Pettus Bridge, scene of much violence in Selma, Alabama, or when I looked at the sculptures of ferocious police dogs lunging forward to bite in a park in Birmingham where real ferocious police dogs lunged forward to bite protesters or when I raised my eyes to look at the exact spot where Martin Luther King fell on the balcony of the Lorraine Motel in Memphis.
I kept thinking, “This just happened.” And I chided myself for not getting that sooner.

The boys looking at replicas of the high-powered water hose guns that were used to spray protesters in Birmingham.
We decided to study Civil Rights at Robb’s suggestion; he thought it was a way for us to do some real experiential learning on something important without traveling overseas. I also thought, with Barak Obama’s presidency, it was a good time to look at how far we’ve come as a nation.
But now that I think about it, I probably wanted to take on Civil Rights was so that I could learn what I’d never learned. Not just the details of the Montgomery Bus Boycott and the Little Rock Nine and the Lunch Counter Sit-Ins and the Freedom Rides, but how everything fit together. This is not the kind of thing that is taught in schools—not when I was growing up and not now. Through out our studies and at the museums we visited (I highly recommend the National Civil Rights Museum in Memphis), there were so many times the boys or I said, “How could they do that?” “How could people be so mean to each other?” How could people wave signs “Keep Our Christian Nation,” while protesting the integration of the Little Rock schools?
Obviously, not talking is a way to deny these shameful things really happened. I’m just glad that the boys won’t grow up ignorant to this recent, painful history. Understanding what happened from slavery to the Civil War to Jim Crow to the Voting Rights Act will make them appreciate, I hope, how truly resilient the U.S. is. I firmly believe no other country in the world could have made so much progress so quickly. That makes me extra proud to be an American.

The boys in front of the spot where Martin Luther King was assassinated at the Lorraine Motel in Memphis.
I’m also glad the boys are now able to recognize racial injustice and ugliness. Yesterday Gus and I were in the car listening to NPR when we heard a report about black farmers who said they couldn’t get the same type of loans from the Department of Agriculture as white farmers. Gus looked at me and said, “Hey, it’s still happening.”






